Why Self-Hypnosis Leads to Better Friendships

Regularly indulging in self-hypnosis improves your life. And, like all things that transform you, there is no one exit. If your finances improve thanks to self-hypnosis, so will your health. If you enjoy life more because of it, you'll be more creative.

And so on. In personal development, a rising tide really does lift all boats.

Even if you focus on one area of ​​your life – like friendships – you'll see multiple benefits manifesting in parallel.

In other words, everything improves.

This happens to the extent where it becomes difficult to track. It's hard to say that you're friendlier because you have more energy or because you listen more. It could be both or a hundred other things.

With science, you isolate the variables and test them one at a time. With self-hypnosis, everything improves together.

This is why there's one personality trait that's sometimes overlooked. When you develop this – and, when you train your mind hypnotically, it comes with the package – your friendships improve and it's hard to explain why.

You know that you've resolved some issues.

You know that you're more pleasant to be around.

These things do not quite explain it. There's something more to what's going on than it looks.

Then it hits you – a moment of epiphany. Your friendships enrich because you are more open to experiences.

If you think about what causes friendships, you notice something strange. It seems as though you hang out with people because you like their personality. That's important – it keeps a relationship alive – but you realize it does not cause it.

After all, there are plenty of people with equally great personalities online. It's not hard to spend time with anyone these days, no matter where they are in the world. Yet friendships form with the people you surround yourself with. These are people from your school, work, neighborhood, gym or forums.

Your colleagues, whether online or offline

And what's the best way to turn colleagues into friends?

Give them a shared experience.

With amazing strangers online, you can become friends … but only if you spend time in the same communities. Few people will be drawn to the beacon of your personality, no matter how good it is. It's the same with face-to-face – you have to experience something together for the bonds to strengthen.

No matter how compatible you might be, without going through something – whether it's fun, dramatic, emotional, dangerous or exciting – you will not become friends.

So the more you experience, the more (and better) friendships you'll forge.

Self-hypnosis automatically makes you more open to things. The hypnotic state allows you to see opportunities that you'd otherwise miss. It makes you more willing to act on ideas, accept suggestions and create moments you will always treasure.

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Why Zombies Get More Dates Than You

Dating requires a certain something from you. It's not good looks, since beautiful people can be shallow and plain people can be captivating. It's not money because you can create amazing experiences with pocket change.

Is it charisma?

Kind of. But fear not – there's a type of charisma that even timid, meek folk can tap into.

You do not even need a pulse for this one. In fact, if zombies could hold a conversation, they'd be great at this. The shuffling, mindless dead have one advantage over you – but that's okay, as it's something you can practice.

And, with self-hypnosis, you can enter this state of mind whenever you need to.

Before we talk about this flavor of charisma, let's talk about its opposites. Stop me if any of these sound familiar:

The conversations fill with awkward pauses, nervous laughter and empty statements about the weather. It gets to the point where you grasp any topic that comes up with both hands.

Then there's the opposite. One person seizes control of the conversation and peppers the other with questions. Who are you? Where are you from? How big is your family? Each question earns a brief response before moving onto the next. It's closer to a police interrogation than a date.

As different as these experiences seem, they both have a common cause. They are traps that no zombie would ever stumble into:

You are thinking far, far too much.

Thinking is valuable and it has its place. It's a question of timing, though. You can plan the date beforehand and come up with some things to say and do. Afterwards, you can reflect on what went well, what did not and whether you want to see them again.

During the date, though? Quiet that mind of yours. Embrace your inner zombie.

You can not think and do at the same time. Each is a complex mental task that uses different parts of the brain. If you're trying to think of what to say, then you're not saying something interesting.

That's not to say you can not take a moment to gather your thoughts. That's fine – just do not spend the entire date there.

The arrival to aim for is when both of you are surprised by what you say. If you script out the conversation, it'll be stilated and awkward.

Thankfully, self-hypnosis is perfect for this. It's one of the ideal ways to switch from thinking into doing. Practice it in your quiet moments so you can rely on it when you need it.

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The Magical Spice in the Complex Stew of Parenting

I'm not a parent, but I've always been interested in what separates good ones from bad ones. There's no one factor, of course. Love is important but you do not have to look far to see that it's not enough.

Love expresses itself in so many ways. Some are healthy and others are not.

What more than love makes someone a kickass mother or father?

Again, there's still more than one ingredient. The stew that is the parent-child relationship is rich, complex and nourishing.

There is one thing, though, that all great parents seem to have.

It's something that can improve any relationship and feels especially important with kids.

This magic spice is a quality that, when you embrace it, makes everything you do better and easier.

The miracle ingredient is patience.

Everyone knows that children are exhausting and annoying. The people who love their kids seem to say this more than anyone. And it's true. They're loud, messy, ungrateful and unreasonable.

That's part of their charm. It's also a big chunk of the stress.

If an adult wants to go to the park and you offer to drive them, they'll be grateful. A child might run around the house, screaming with joy, and then chuck a tantrum when you tell them to put on their shoes so you can go.

How do you reason with that? Add a little sleep deprivation to the mix and, after the first ten hours, this stops being funny.

No one would blame you for feeling frazzled.

The superhero parents among us stay patient despite everything.

They keep their cool, they do not give in to nagging and they never take the easy way out.

How many moments do you wish you could do over because you lost patience?

There's a reason why they call it a virtue. It's one of those foundational skills that make everything else easier.

And, like many skills, self-hypnosis is the key to quickly mastering it. The act of learning self-hypnosis develops your patience. It trains your mind to keep its attention and stay with the moment.

Once you're in a trance, you can take this further. The more you keep your mind on task, the more patient you become.

Impatience only arises in two situations: when you think about how long you've been doing something, or when you look forward to something in the future. You can be nothing but patient in the moment. Train your mind to see each moment as a fresh experience.

This is how children see the world. This is why they can play the same game or watch the same movie over and over. They do not dwell on the fact that they've seen it, because each time through adds something new.

There's wisdom to this outlook on life. So do not fight your kids on this – join them. See your moment as if it's the first time. It's easy to be patient when you're mesmerized with wonder.

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Repel Losers, Attract Heroes and Revolutionise Your Life

What's the secret to amazing relationships?

Why do some people adore spending time with you?

What separates those folk who you can not wait to see from those you wish you could avoid?

In a relationship, emotions matter – maybe even more than anything else does. There's a lot I could say about that, but Maya Angelou said it best:

People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

Yes, this hold true even for highly intellectual people. They have a different view of what makes them happy – a bouquet of roses might not cut it – but the principle is the same.

The strength of your relationships comes down to the quality of the emotion. People like you if you make them feel good.

This is the danger in toxic behaviors and attitudes. No one would blame you for occasionally getting angry or needing to vent. If this is all you do, though, then watch out. If your presence makes people miserable, stressed or angry, they'll probably work hard to avoid you.

You might not be lonely if you do this. Some people like the drama of feeling down. These usually are not great people to spend time with, though.

On the other hand, if your presence makes people relaxed and happy, then you're in a good place. If you inspire, motivate and challenge them, then you'll attract only amazing people into your life.

This is not anything about sending positive vibes into the universe. It's simple psychology. Most successful people spend time to find people like this. Most people who just want to blame everyone else hate being reminded to grow.

Without even trying, you drive away energy vampires and welcome heroes into your social circle.

And it's a virtuous circle. The more you cultivate this attitude, the stronger this effect becomes.

So, how can self-hypnosis help with this?

You first think about what you want. Do you want to surround yourself with people who are courteous?

Courageous?

Entrepreneurial?

Spiritual?

Healthy?

Chances are that you've had conversations that resonated with you. Think about what happened and, importantly, how it felt.

If you can not think of a conversation like this, then enter a trance and imagine one. Make it as detailed as possible. Notice what emotions shift as you do this.

Before you step outside, go into a trance and reactivate this mental state. After a conversation, go into a trance and think about what worked (and what did not).

There's no need to force anything. In fact, it's better if you do not. Give it time and you'll find yourself having more of the right conversations.

In time, your social group will transform itself. People close to you will explore more of what you want. The right sort of people will fight for their place in your group. Slowly but surely, your relationships will reinvent themselves.

And with that, you become a whole new person.

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The Art of Sustainable Giving

I was reading somewhere that insects do not have the ability to push themselves the way humans can. Compared to higher mammals, insects are simple and efficient machines. They already run near peak efficiency all the time.

It's a good thing we are not bugs. No matter how tapped out you feel, your well always runs deeper.

You see this in sports all the time, or even at the gym. Someone pushes themselves to the point where they can barely stand. Then they get their second wind. They explode with energy.

This is nothing. Put someone or their children in danger and some people respond by winning superpowers. Ordinary folk can gain the courage to walk through fire and the strength to lift cars.

Most of your power lies dormant. You've got a hazard to yourself and others if you lived like this all the time. If you push yourself too far, you break.

But if you push yourself just enough …

Like physical strength, you have deep reserves of mental strength. No matter how frazzled, stressed or drained you may feel, your well always runs deeper.

If you force yourself to smile and keep toiling, it can lead to problems. But if you find something in the moment that restores you, you can recover even as you work.

It's like owning a car. Ignored problems persist and grow, but a little bit of maintenance will keep you running for decades.

This applies to all jobs. Tough physical labor and a challenging office job have different challenges. The response is the same, though – find joy and fulfillment where you can, and nothing will faze you.

It's especially true for caregivers. Spending all day looking after others can drain you.

Or it can invigorate you.

For many people who work to ease the suffering of others, it's a bit of both.

In many cases, there are limits to what a caregiver can do. Some people hate the idea of ​​being helped or take out their frustrations on everyone else. Some people have problems that only time will heal. And sometimes they're the lucky ones.

It can take its toll.

But it does not have to.

You can mentally 'reset' at any time. It's like waking from a deep sleep – your thoughts are fresh, or at least different. You can leave your client in the past and focus all of your attention on the present.

I can not tell you how refreshing this is. It's like having a nap in a fraction of the time.

Self-hypnosis puts you in a trance where your mind is different. It often feels like you're on a break, with nothing to do or think about. Usually you use this trance state to create a change in your mind.

But simply experiencing it is enough.

Practice focusing on your breathing. You can always breathe, so you can always go into a quick, light trance. Take 15 seconds between tasks to reset and focus on the now.

This is maintenance for your mind, so enjoy it.

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One Small Step for a Friend, One Giant Hassle in Sales

What's the greatest sales technique of all time? The one that has converted the most disinterested observers into enthusiastic customers?

When you run through a list of different marketing strategies, you realize that one has been around longer than commerce. From the hunter-gatherer days where tribes traded and competed, through the bazaars of the ancient world to the global digital marketplace today, there's one approach that dominated through history.

That's not to say that modern approaches are not great. The internet lets you reach more customers for less effort than ever before.

That only works because of a numbers game. Most people ignore most ads, but everyone gets so many that the system still works. Even targeted advertising fizzles more often than it sizzles.

What's better than spraying your demographic with offers and enticements?

Why, it's getting their friends to do it for you.

Word of mouth continues to be one of the best marketing techniques of all time. Your friend and a salesperson may say the same things about the same product but, psychologically, it looks different.

One comes across as more genuine and helpful.

The other …?

Not so much.

It's a shame that salespeople can not capture that essence that distinguishes an honest recommendation from a blatant sales pitch. And self-hypnosis certainly could not help with those …

Or can it?

Most salespeople come across like they're trying to sell something, for obvious reasons. The best do not. When you talk to the top salespeople, it can feel like a chat with a good friend.

If you're in sales, you're probably friendly – you do not last long if you're rude or cold. But there's a difference between friendly and natural.

Think about when you, say, recommend a movie to a friend. This is sales, where you're selling an idea or experience. Only the way you do that is different from how you might do that in a store.

For one thing, it's casual and friendly. You're not pushy, though you might be enthusiastic about it.

Also, you tailor both the message and the product to your friend. If you want to recommend a horror movie, then it matters whether they love horror, hate it or shr it it off. You would not want to back them into a corner and make them feel pressured to see it – that can backfire.

When you honestly believe that your friend would gain something from your recommendation, that's when it has power.

This is the secret to sales. And what a great secret it is. You have to believe in what you're selling (if you do not, then what are you doing?) And, if it's not right for the customer, it forces you to distinguish that.

Will that cost you sales? Unlikely.

If a customer walks out of there with something that is not right, they'll return it.

If you talk them out of a sale, though, they'll come back to you. Not to the store – to you. And they'll bring their friends.

A genuine salesperson is rarer than platinum. People will not believe their luck when they find you.

The technique – if you even call it that – is simple. During your quiet moments, maybe just after you wake up, you hypnotize yourself. In a trance, you think of any moment where you recommended something to a friend. Relive how excited you were to share your discovery with them. There's an anticipation there, waiting until you hear what they thought about it.

This is the power state for humane sales. When you approach customers with this state filling your being, they will thank you for allowing them to buy from you.

It takes practice.

But it's worth it.

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Beyond Your Fear of Public Speaking

Ahh, public speaking. It's probably safe to say that most people find it a little uncomfortable. And then there are those who are terrified by the thought of standing on a stage with all eyes on you.

Me? I'm one of the lucky and crazy few who enjoy it. I liked it even as a kid.

The funny thing is that people tell me how great it must be to not get nervous in front of a crowd.

Haha, what? Who said anything about not getting nervous? My job involves a lot of public speaking and, even now, I still get anxious beforehand.

It's the same way I feel about rollercoasters and those are fun.

With a little discipline and a little more self-hypnosis, you can enjoy public speaking as well.

You might think that this is one problem that self-hypnosis can not fix. After all, how do you enter a trance while standing in front of a group?

There are two things to say to that:

Firstly, it's easier than you think it is. I did it yesterday. I've seen other great speakers do it too. I do not know how common it is but, if you know the signs, you can spot it.

Secondly, you do not have to do anything while you're speaking. All you need to do is focus on your breathing and your audience. Trust that the words will come.

No, the best time to hypnotise yourself is before you begin speaking.

In the time leading up to the talk, think about what it's going to be like. Put yourself into a trance and imagine the venue. See through your eyes everything that you will see from this perspective. Bring to mind your audience – let them fill the seats.

If you start to feel nervous, then that's good. Do not suppress the feeling and do not ignore it.

Use that energy. Think about how great it is to know that you can rely on it. Even if you're a little sleepy that morning, your energy will wash it away and leave you shining.

Nervousness is such a wonderful gift from your own mind!

Continue to breathe as you think about how great it will be to have so much vitality. Take deep breaths through your nose and into your belly. Exhale gently through your mouth. Think about how, even in front of people, you always have time to breathe deeply.

And once you can use your breath to control your energy, it's time to go beyond that.

What is the purpose of your talk? Are you trying to inspire them? Sate their curiosity? Inform them?

Think about what you want them to experience. Even if your talk is the dulest status report of all time, you want the audience to be interested.

Find what you want them to feel.

And become it.

If you want to inspire them, then let yourself be inspired. If you want them to be curious, then be curious about what you say. Be interested in your topic and, like a virus, it'll spread to your audience.

Maybe you've heard and tried this advice before. Trust me – doing this while in a trance is different. Prepare yourself the right way – using self-hypnosis – and your results will amaze you.

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The Quickest, Easiest Way to Hypnotise Someone

Of all the ways to hypnotize a subject, one stands out as the best.

It is fast – it can get results in minutes, if that.

It's easy – so simple that untrained hypnotists accidentally use this all the time.

Of all the techniques I know, this is probably the most reliable. After a little bit of practice, you can wield this with such skill that it's hard to resist.

And it's invisible. Most people will not know what you did, only that it felt amazing.

It's so good that most hypnotists I know use it. Many of them, if not most of them, use it multiple times a day. There are a few who do not and some of them get great results. I remember one skilled hypnotist who, on learning this technique, transformed. He instantly became that much more hypnotic …

And happier as a person.

The best part is that you can combine this with other hypnotic inductions. No matter what your favored style, technique or school is, this meshes with all of them.

That's a lot of build-up, so let's cut right to it:

The hypnotic induction to rule them all is …

Self-hypnosis.

This is so common that a lot of hypnotists reading this are probably feeling disappointed. “I already know that!” No doubt, but it always pays to remember the fundamentals.

The non-hypnotists reading this might find that intriguing. How could hypnotizing yourself be the best way to hypnotize someone else?

It works on so many levels.

The first is that self-hypnosis is a great way to enter the perfect mental state for it. It often leads to you feeling calm, focused and a sense of peace. You can add other emotions, like excitation or compilation – whatever the context calls for.

I find this especially useful in, we say, non-ideal environments. Sometimes you find yourself on a busy street, a crowded train or the middle of a park. My self-hypnosis trances allow me to focus on one person and blank out the rest of the world.

Most people have never received that level of attention. I know I like anyone who filters out all reality except me.

It also helps with subjects who've never been hypnotized before. They do not know what to do or expect. So show them. When the hypnotist enters a trance state, it gives the subject a model to follow.

And it's hard to resist. Watching someone in a trance makes you want to join them. It's almost irresistible.

Perhaps the biggest benefit is that it's good for the hypnotist. The process is intense and can take a lot out of you. A trance state, like a flow state, allows you to do your best work for long periods at a time.

Self-hypnosis is good for the hypnotist, subject and the trance they create between them. You can not ask for much more than that.

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Introduction to Medical Hypnotherapy

Hypnosis has come a long way from being the strange and mysterious “mesmeric” phenomenon to a scientifically accepted therapeutic tool. Most people have a severe impression about hypnosis from the stage shows and cartoon strips like Mandrake the magician. Consequently, medical science had also been suspicious and wary of its effects for a long time.

Recent changes in health care have brought out an increased demand for empirically supported treatment options in medicine. There is a demand for the integration of hypnotic techniques in the treatment of a number of medical problems from various quarters. It is because important for physicians to learn the basics of medical hypnotherapy and add it into their therapeutic armamentarium. Although time consuming, used judiciously, it can reap rich benefits for the physician and patient alike.

The most important recent development in medical hypnosis is our realization that the power of hypnosis actually resides in the patient and not in the doctor!

The above simple statement has profound implications because it exemplifies existence of useful potential within each patient that can be put into positive use in the management of psychosomatic illnesses. The goal of modern medical hypnosis that is to help patients use this untapped subconscious potential to its full extend. This will indeed bring in a fresh and somewhat revolutionary shift from the physician focused, authoritarian methods of the past and the present.

Although the British Medical Association had recognized the importance of hypnosis as early as in 1891, it was not until 1955 that the BMA suggested teaching of the therapeutic use of hypnosis in medicine. Three years later, the American Medical Association followed suit.

An International Society of Hypnosis has been set up to coordinate and assess the standards and practices of professional hypnotism across the world. Hypnosis is currently indicated in several areas of health care as an adjunct to more conventional treatments. These include dentistry, general medicine, and psychology. Dermatology, or the study of skin diseases, is a branch that has specifically taken up and studied the effects of hypnosis in a number of skin conditions like warts, eczema and psoriasis.

The purpose of medical hypnosis is to reduce suffering, to promote healing, or to help the person alter a destructive behavior that may be affecting his / her health adversely.

The aim of this series of articles is to help the modern medical practitioners understand hypnosis better and offer it to their patients who may benefit from it as an adjunct to the modern medical therapies. Patients suffering from a variety of illnesses will also benefit in making an informed decision on the therapeutic alternatives available to them.

A few words to doctors: whether you use hypnotism in your practice or not, studying hypnotism will definitely make you a better individual and a much improved healer. Your therapeutic approach will change for the better. You will find your patients more receptive and compliant to your suggestions. It is not very difficult to master the hypnotherapy skills.

This series will discuss, mainly, the following topics:

  1. Introduction to Medical Hypnosis
  2. What is Hypnosis?
  3. Theories of Hypnosis
  4. Hypnosis: Myths and Reality
  5. A Brief History of Medical Hypnosis
  6. How Does Hypnosis Work?
  7. Hypnotic Sleep Vs Normal Sleep
  8. Uses of Hypnosis in Medicine
  9. Major Studies Conductive on Hypnotherapy So Far.
  10. The Eight Steps in Hypnotic Induction.
  11. Repertoire of Induction techniques
  12. Trance Management
  13. Implanting Post Hypnotic Suggestions
  14. Problems in Hypnotherapy
  15. Autohypnosis as tool in Medicine
  16. Guidelines on Practice of Medical Hypnosis for the Doctors
  17. Guidelines on Practice of Medical Hypnosis for the Patients

Next Chapter: What is Hypnosis?

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What Is Hypnotherapy? – Information On How Hypnotherapy Can Help You

Hypnotherapy is a powerful and effective method of solving a wide variety of physical, mental and emotional problems. To understand fully how it can benefit you, we'll look at:

  • What hypnotherapy is
  • When you'd want to use it
  • Why you'd want to use it
  • How it works
  • Who to use it with

so that by the end of this article you'll know all you need to use hypnotherapy effectively in your life.

What is hypnotherapy?

Hypnotherapy is a process in which a hypnotherapist helps a client to solve problems using hypnosis. These problems could be emotional – such as the fear of heights, behavioral – such as smoking or overeating, or physical – such as chronic pain or tension.

A hypnotherapist is a person trained in hypnotherapy. The requirements to qualify as a hypnotherapist vary widely depending on where you live. You can find out more about the rules governing hypnotherapists where you live from the organizations listed at the end of this article.

The job of the hypnotherapist is to help the client solve a specific problem by hypnotizing them. This may happen just once, or the hypnotherapist and client may work together several times over a longer period. This process will give the client more control of their thoughts and feelings. As a result it will help them to change their behavior and solve the problem.

Hypnosis is a natural process by which a hypnotherapist can place a client in a particular state of consciousness called trance. In this state, the client is more open to suggestion and can more easily change how they think, feel and behave. Trance is generally experienced as a pleasant, relaxed state much like the moments directly before sleep.

Hypnotherapy is separate from stage hypnosis. Stage hypnosis uses hypnosis for entertainment. The stage hypnotist creates a show in which the power of hypnosis is used to encourage the participants to have in bizarre, amazing and entertaining ways.

Since one of the cornerstones of therapy is trust between the client and hypnotherapist, a reputable hypnotherapist will only engage the client in activities which are comfortable, appropriate and helpful.

When is hypnotherapy useful?

Hypnotherapy is useful when you have a specific personal problem you want to solve. The sort of problems that hypnotherapy can be applied to include:

Physical problems

Hypnotherapy can help with chronic pain and muscular tension. It is effective both for relaxing the body and altering the way the brain perceives pain to reduce it's intensity.

Emotional problems

These can include fear and anxiety; eg phobias, panic attacks, exam nerves etc., grief, anger, guilt, shame, low self-esteem and many more.

Behavioral problems

These can include smoking, overeating, drinking too much and various other kinds of addictive behavior. It is also possible to help with insomnia and disturbed sleep.

In general, hypnotherapy provides a useful complement to other kinds of medical care. You should look carefully as to whether your hypnotherapist is medically qualified and only take medical advice from qualified professionals.

Almost anyone with normal brain functions and no serious mental illnesses can be safely hypnotised. However, your chances of being hypnotised will vary depending on the hypnotherapist you work with. An experienced, professional hypnotherapist with what you feel secure and supported is most likely to succeed.

Why would I want to use hypnotherapy?

First of all, hypnotherapy is quick and effective. It often helps people to make changes in their lives that they had previously been unable to accomplish, such as stopping smoking or flying in an aeroplane.

Second, hypnotherapy can work where other things may have failed. Although there are a wide range of drugs and therapies that can help, none of them is effective in every case. Since hypnotherapy is different to any of these treatments, it is worth considering when other have failed.

Third, hypnotherapy is safe and there are no physical side effects. In the hands of an experienced, compassionate and ethical hypnotherapist, hypnotherapy is a very safe form of treatment with few or no risks.

How does hypnotherapy work?

Hypnotherapy works through the use of hypnosis. This is the process by which the hypnotherapist helps the client attain a particular state of consciousness called trance.

All of us experience altered states of consciousness such as sleeping or daydreaming every day. The trance state is different in that it has special properties. In an ordinary state, people are limited in their ability to respond to suggestions. They may find it hard to control their thoughts, feelings and behavior. In particular, it is difficult for them to control their unconscious mind – that part of the mind that controls automatic activity such as emotions and habits.

For example, when you got dressed today, you did not have to think about how to do it. You simply performed the task on a kind of autopilot using your unconscious mind. Sometimes that autopilot is very helpful, as when it drives you safely along the road. Sometimes it is unhelpful, as when you experience thoughts, feelings or behaviors you do not like but can not seem to stop.

In trance, a client's unconscious mind is open to the influence of the hypnotherapist and can thus be reprogrammed in the way the client desires. Naturally, this makes solving problems easy and rapid.

Who should I use hypnotherapy with?

The best approach is to contact an official organization in the country in which you live.

In the United Kingdom, you can use the General Hypnotherapy Register ( www.general-hypnotherapy-register.com )

In the USA, you can use the National Guild of Hypnotists (www.ngh.net)

These organizations can put you in touch with their members in your area. You will also find others in the phonebook and on the Internet. In these cases, check with the hypnotherapist concerned regarding their qualifications and membership of professional bodies.

Once you have some contact details, approach each hypnotherapist on the list. Many will offer some kind of free initial consultation. Firstly, use your judgment to decide if the hypnotherapist is right for you. Do you feel comfortable with them? Do you think they are the sort of person you would want to trust in helping you with personal problems?

Then, ask if they can supply any testiomonials and yet they have worked with your sort of problem before. Apply all the rigor and careful thought you would use if hiring a lawyer, doctor or any other sort of professional.

In Summary

Hypnotherapy is a very useful process for solving physical, emotional and behavioral problems. It is a safe, effective and often rapid method of improving your life. In the hands of a competent and ethical hypnotherapist, and alongside any necessary professional medical care, it can provide great benefits. For further information, contact the organizations listed above or visit the author's website.

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Is Hypnotherapy Real?

Hypnotherapy is not a new form of therapy – it has been around for years. The technique of hypnosis is usually attributed to Franz Anton Mesmer who, in the nineteenth century, experimented with what he called animal magnetism. He describes a state which today we call a hypnotic state. This is commonly known as a trance or a state of altered consciousness in which the conscious mind is more or less bypassed and the therapist addresses the subconscious mind directly. The subject is not really sleep in hypnosis as most people think. A trance is more or less like an intense state of relaxation and awareness. A trance is not difficult to induce. A therapist may have the subject stare at a spot on a wall or wave a pendulum or stopwatch back and forth in front of him and have him concentrate on it while talking to him in a monotone.

The therapist will be saying things like “you are getting sleepier and sleepier, you are more and more relaxed, you can feel the tension draining from your body,” etc. as the subject goes into a trance. Once the subject is in the trance, the therapist will delivery the suggestions in the same monotone voice. The suggestions are designed to modify certain kinds of behavior the subject exhibits in the waking state, like smoking, diet, anxiety, etc. When the therapist finishes giving the suggestion he brings the subject out of the trance by telling him, in the same monotonic voice, that he is becoming aware of noises in the surroundings, he will “wake up” feeling relaxed and refreshed and then will tell him to open his eyes when he is ready.

The therapist will also usually tell the subject beforehand that he will remember everything that happens when he is “under” and will spend time talking to the subject to discuss any anxieties or fears he has about hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy done in this fashion with a therapist directing the session is referred to as hetero-suggestion. Auto-suggestion is known as self-hypnosis.

The effects of hypnotherapy are not immediate. The intention is to alter some undesirable aspect of behavior and this usually does not happen in one session. Hypnotherapy sessions must be reinforced. The patient will usually have to schedule four or five or more sessions depending on the problem. It is best to find a therapist that you can trust and to follow his instructions.

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Hypnotherapy – Technique or Profession?

This article is derived from what seems to be the age old question as to whether hypnotherapy is technique or profession . This contravention affects the acceptance of hypnotherapy conducted by those without a formal qualification in another discipline, be it medicine, psychology, counseling or psychotherapy.

The hypothesis to be investigated was whether hypnotherapy has a theoretical basis along similar lines to counseling and psychotherapy models in that listening skills and the therapeutic alliance are utilized, either implicitly or explicitly.

One difficulty in arguing that hypnotherapy is a profession is the lack of common standards of training . Another difficulty is the lack of clinical training that generally comes with medical or psychological training. A way to augment this might be the incorporation of counseling skills in the clinical practice of hypnotherapy. This could be accomplished in either formal qualification or informal experience. This study looked at how much these factors already exist, and involved investigation, using questionnaire and interview, of three different therapy groups; qualified counsel / psychotherapist who use hypnosis as an adjunct, counselors / psychotherapists who use hypnosis as their prime therapy, and therapists with only hypnotherapy training.

Historically, hypnotherapy as a discipline has been hard to define as it has been claimed to be part of the medical, psychological, and complementary therapy fields. Parts of its practice fit in to each of these fields, but it does not fit entirely into any one of them.

Since 1954, the British Medical Association has recognized hypnosis as a valuable therapeutic modality, but many noted psychologists and psychiatrists have taken the position of hypnotherapy being solely a technique. (Waxman, 1989). Many also took the view that only physicians, psychologists and dentists should be allowed to practice hypnosis in any form (Erickson & Rossi, 1980).

In recent years, however, this view has begun to be questioned. In the United States, the Department of Labor granted an occupational design of hypnotherapist (Boyne 1989). In the United Kingdom, with the advent of the popularity of complementary therapies, hypnotherapy is recognized as one of the four discrete disciplines that have been studied to determine clinical efficiency (Mills & Budd, 2000).

The clinical application of hypnosis, hypnotherapy, is a directed process used in order to effect some form of behavioral change in a client. This change is achieved by first eliciting information from the client, and then devising a way of reflecting it back to the client in a way that the client will both understand and act upon (Hogan, 2000).

Vontress (1988) gives us this definition of counseling:
Counseling is a psychological interaction involving two or more individuals. One or more of the interactants is considered able to help the other person (s) live and function more effectively at the time of the involvement or in the future. Specifically, the goal of counseling is to assist the respondents directly or indirectly in adjusting to or otherwise negotiating environments that influence their own or someone else's psychological well-being. (Vontress 1988 pg7)

There seems to be little difference in the definitions given by Hogan and Vontress. The obvious difference being that hypnotherapy uses hypnosis as a vehicle for behavioral change. If this is the case, the primary difference between counseling and hypnotherapy is the use that is made of trance states. That is to say that hypnosis is the vehicle for the counseling dynamic.
The Vontress definition does not analyze how the changes take place. The knowledge of most of the main counseling models would suggest that the use of skills, primatically creating the core conditions, or the therapeutic alliance, and active listening, are the basis of the process of change. If this is taken as a given, it can then be asked whether these conditions exist in the hypnotherapeutic relationship and affect the outcome of therapy. This raises the question of the level of understanding of this process among those practicing hypnotherapy.

For this study, a thorough review of literature relating to the theoretic basis of hypnotherapy was undertaken, but few references could be found which either confirm or deny the hypothesis that hypnotherapists utilize the therapeutic alliance and listening skills, or that their awareness, or not, of the therapeutic process was relevant to their work as therapists.
Many standard works on hypnotherapy refer to the need for rapport, but often do not define this, or give details of how it can be obtained. Many use the term hypnosis and almost ignore the “therapy” part, and simply list tools or scripts, without explaining the reasons why these are considered to “work”.

The first part of the study was a self-reporting questionnaire, sent to 300 hypnotherapists, 82 of which responded. This quantitative data wave information as to the qualifications of the respondents, their self-reported knowledge and use of counseling skills and the therapeutic alliance, and their primary mode of therapy.

Counseling skills seem to play a significant part in the professional practice of hypnotherapy. For the majority of those questioned, 85.4%, counseling skills play a role in their hypnotherapeutic practice. There was divergence in the responses of those who do not use counseling skills in their practices. In reply to the question as to what makes their work therapeutic most stated that hypnosis gives direct access to the unconscious mind and therefore can facilitate change, and so counseling is not necessary in this process. Some cite evidence of hypnosis being therapeutic back to Milton Erickson and as his work was the therapeutic so was their. Erickson stated that much of hypnosis is based on the development and maintenance of rapport (Erickson & Rossi 1980). Most counseling training emphasizes the importance of rapport and considers rapport building (or the creation of the core conditions) to be a counseling skill. It can be there assumed that although these practitioners use counseling skills, they are either unaware of this or unwilling to acknowledge it.

Despite being qualified in other areas, the questionnaire uncovers an interesting finding concerning how therapists identify themselves. If we take the 25 respondents who do not claim to have any other formal therapeutic qualifications away from these figures, this shows that 42 who hold other qualifications identify themselves as being primarily a hypnotherapist. This is interesting from a labeling position, as hypnotherapy has not always enjoyed favailability publicity and with many leading figures who claim that hypnotherapy was not a therapy but a series of techniques, still a major of those questioned identify themselves as hypnotherapists. These answers were used to formulate interview questions that were then put to a subset of the previous responses. This subset included a male and a female therapist from each of the three groups: qualified counselors / psychotherapist who use hypnosis as an adjunct, counsellors / psychotherapists who use hypnosis as their prime therapy, and therapists with only hypnotherapy training. The interview comprised 12 open questions designed to elicit information as to whether and how the therapist used counseling skills and their depth of understanding of the therapeutic alliance. Their answers were judged by a panel of five senior practitioners and the author, all of which held advanced degrees in counseling or psychotherapy.

The data appears to indicate that although the understanding of what hypnosis is remains fairly consistent through the three target groups, the depth of knowledge seems greater in the qualified counselor / psychotherapist categories as opposed to those who have only a training in hypnotherapy as their qualification. Additionally, the data indicates that the qualified counselors / psychotherapists have a greater understanding of the therapeutic process and how and because their form of treatment is successful compared to those with only training in hypnotherapy.

This study also finds that counseling skills appear to be used, at least to some extent, within the practice of hypnotherapy whatever the practitioner realizes this or not and so the importance of counseling skills within the context of the therapeutic process can not be ignored.
It would be logical to infer that if these skills are being used, then those that understand them- ie those with the qualifications in these areas, will use them more effectively. It was beyond the scope of this study to look at the efficiency of the practice of the different types of therapist.

This conclusion has various implications for individual therapists and the field as a whole. Therapists engaged in the professional practice of hypnotherapy may need to give quantitative data information as to the qualifications of the respondents, their self-reported knowledge and use of counseling skills and the therapeutic alliance, and their primary mode of therapy. These answers were used to formulate interview questions that were then put to a subset of the previous responses. The whole field may be affected in that professional societies may need to consider re-evaluating membership criteria, and these factors need to be taken into consideration during any process of statutory or voluntary regulation.

As discussed earlier in this paper, the reason for conducting the research was an interest in the question whether hypnotherapy is a profession or a technique. The results of the study would support the idea that hypnotherapy is a profession in its own right, not just a technique, and has a basis consistent with the basis of counseling. The findings of this report directly contradict Waxman's assertion, that the majority of non-medically / psychologically qualified hypnotherapists hold no formal therapeutic qualifications (Waxman 1989). It can be inferred by the numbers of hypnotherapists who use counseling skills, that counseling skills are a major component to the practice of hypnotherapy. This implies that practitioners have either engaged in independent study or studied for formal qualifications in counseling or psychotherapy, which again goes some way to validate the importance of counseling skills in the practice of hypnotherapy. Further, as shown in this paper, there are practitioners who are credentialed in other mental health fields who identify themselves as hypnotherapists as opposed to counselors or psychotherapists. The implications of this may be that as far as public is concerned the title hypnotherapist is easier to recognize than the plethora of counseling and psychotherapy titles currently in use. Alternately, these practitioners may not be interested in the biases of leading practitioners and prefer to determine their own identity.

It is held that these conclusions will help to form a more general consensus as to what hypnotherapy is and to lead to an eventual unification of standards in hypnotherapy. This information could have been useful to the future training of hypnotherapists as far as exploring different models of therapy and the need for accountability in the therapeutic relationship. Those who were qualified in either psychotherapy or counseling also seemed to have a better theoretic understanding of therapy as a concept and how hypnotherapy fits into the hierarchy of therapies.

Any readers who have been involved in similar studies of have relevant data would be welcome to make contact.

References:

Boyne, G (1989) Transforming Therapy Glendale, Westwood

Erickson, M & Rossi, E (1980) The Collected Paper of Milton H Erickson Vol 1 New York, Irvington

Hogan, K (2000) Hypnotherapy Handbook Eagan, Network 3000

Mills, S & Budd, J (2000) “University of Exeter Professional Organization of Complementary and Alternative Medicine in the UK 2000: A report to the Department of Health” Exeter, Center for Complementary Health Studies

Vontress, C (1988) Social Class Influences on Counseling Denver, Love

Waxman, D (Ed) (1989) Hartland's Medical and Dental Hypnosis 3rd Edition London, Bailliere Tindall

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Benefits of Hypnotherapy

The purpose of most hypnotherapy is to alter some undesirable aspect of behavior. The aspect of behavior to be modified can be something like overeating, stopping smoking, anxiety or it can range to more serious personality disorders like psychosis. The therapist, in hypnotherapy, puts the subject into a trance like state in which the therapist can deliver suggestion or talk with the subject's subconscious mind directly. Basically, the trance allows the therapist to bypass the subject's conscious.

Indducing a trance is a reliably easy process. There are various techniques like having the subject stare at and concentrate on a spot on the wall or traveling a stopwatch or pendulum back-and-forth in front of his face as he follows it with his eyes. The therapist, speaking in a monotone, says things like “you are becoming more and more relaxed”, “you can feel the tension draining from your body”, etc. When the subject is in the trance the therapist then gives the suggestions in the same monotonic voice. The suggestions have to be carefully worded to bring about the desired effect. When the therapy session is over, the therapist brings the subject out of the trance by saying something like “you are becoming more aware of you surroundings” and “open your eyes when you are ready to”. The subject will then “wake up”. Hypnotherapy directed by a therapist is referred to hetero-suggestion.

If the intention of the hypnotherapy is to modify behavior like overeating or stopping smoking, usually more than one session is required. The effects are not immediate but the behavior should begin to change gradually in days or weeks. Hypnotherapy can make it easier for the subject to lose weight or to quit smoking. Also, hypnotherapy can be beneficial in the treatment of some psychoses. In the trance like state the therapist can talk with the subject and bring up repressed events that are causing problems in the subject's life. Some things too painful to say in a conscious state may be able to be disclosed in hypnotic state. These painful past events may be causing symptoms like dreams or nightmares, phobias, etc. A psychotherapist, having knowledge of these events, is in a better position to help the subject recover.

There are many benefits of hypnotherapy for people who want to modify behavior. It is easy and reliably inexpensive form of therapy, even though it may require several session.

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About Hypnotherapy

Why use Hypnotherapy?

Have you ever wanted to change a habit or become more self-confident or motivated, only to find something within you is resisting change?
That's your subconscious, and the fact that your subconscious can create such resistance to change is why we often use Hypnotherapy.

Hypnotherapy can help you with …

Smoking, Weight control, Stress, Anxiety, Nail biting, Habits,
Exam nerves, Low self-esteem, Self-confidence and self worth
Social phobias, Irrational fears and phobias, Emotional problems
Psychosexual problems, Sleeping problems, Stuttering
Enuresis (Bed wetting), Guilt, Obsessions and compulsions
Relationship problems …

Please note that this is by no means a comprehensive list, simply an
example of what hypnotherapy can do for you.

Hypnotherapy is a complementary therapy applying various therapeutic techniques, such as suggestion, guided imagery and metaphor, while you are under hypnosis. Combining a naturally relaxed yet focused state of mind under hypnosis and subjective therapeutic techniques, hypnotherapy can help you to achieve your goals, enhance your confidence, change unwanted habits and improve your outlook on life for the better.

Hypnoanalysis is an effective choice of therapy to address: irrational fears and phobias, panic attacks, anxiety, relationship difficulties, psycho-sexual problems, lack of confidence, moodiness, sleeping difficulties, inferiority complex, enuresis (bed wetting), emotional problems, and most other problems where there are psychological factors at work. Hypnoanalysis tend to get the root cause of a presenting difficulty so substitute symptoms are far less likely.

NLP, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, is a powerful tool for fast and effective change. Just one or two sessions can eliminate unwanted habits and behavior and help you adopt positive lifestyle changes. NLP is particularly useful in the treatment of any mind-related conditions such as phobias, addictions or self-esteem issues, and for managing stress.

Educational Kinesiology / Childs play is a sequence of simple and enjoyable movements and exercises, that we use with our students to enhance learning and coordination. These activities make learning fun and the changes in learning and behavior are often immediate and profound. It is especially useful for those with Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and Tourettes.
Treatments combining some or all of these methodologies can be very powerful in brining about a desired change.

Frequently asked questions.

What does it feel like to be hypnotised?

There is no real feeling of being hypnotized, it's a natural state of mind, its like just before you drop off to sleep at night, you feel very relaxed and calm and its a very pleasant feeling.

Will I be aware of what is happening?

Yes, you will always be completely aware and in total control and can exit the state anytime you wish too.

Can I not do want to?

No, Stage hypnotists do perpetuate the myth regarding the power of hypnosis to make people do 'anything'. Hypnosis does lower inhibitions meaning that people in stage shows often do things that would not normally do. But is it really something they do not want to do? Let's remember the person did volunteer, knowing they may well end up barking like a dog or some other harmless stunt.

Is hypnosis dangerous in any way?

No, it is an entirely natural and voluntary state that you can chose to come out of anytime you want.

Can you get stuck in hypnosis?

No, It is a perfectly natural state of relaxation.

Can anyone be hypnotised?

Almost anyone who wants to be hypnotised can be hypnotised. Unfortunately people who are truly mentally subnormal or senile, very young children or people under the influence of drugs or alcohol may not be able to achieve a good hypnotic state.

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Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy is the use of hypnosis to treat patients who are in pain or who are having problems within their minds. Those who use hypnotherapy believe that patients who enter a trance are much more likely to listen to suggestions which are given to them. Some conditions which are treated by hypnotherapy are pain, stress, obesity, stress, and amnesia. While many of these conditions are related to the mind, some functional ailments can be treated as well. Hypnotherapy is a practice that was used by the Ancient Egyptians and Indians. In these societies the practice would often have a religious tone, and both music and dance was included in the practice.

It was not until the 19th century that a number of healers began developing the methods that would come to be known as hypnosis. Franz Anton Mesmer developed a theory which has come to be known as animal magnetism. He did extensive research on hysteria, and his studies indicated that advanced cases were similar to what is called a post-traumatic stress disorder. The work of Sigmund Freud also played an important role in the development of hypnotherapy. There are a number of criticisms which have been made against the practice.

Some believe that the connection between the patient and the therapist may cause problems. The patient may want to please the therapist, or they may worry that the therapist does not like them. However, many of these claims are inconsistent because hypnotherapy will generally take place in a medical facility. There are a number of common techniques that are used in this practice. One of the primary techniques is age regression. The hypnotist will attempt to mentally return the patient to a previous state, and this will often be done to help the patient gain something that they have lost.

The second technique that is commonly used in hypnotherapy is called revivification. In this technique, the hypnotist will help the patient remember previous experiences they've had. As an example, the hypnotist may ask a patient if they have ever been fishing, and if they have been, they will begin recollecting the time that they went fishing, and there will be no need for the hynotist to create a new state. Another common method that is used in hypnotherapy is called a guided imagery. With this technique, the hypnotist will guide the patient through a pleasant experience. The hypnotist may often repeat certain ideas or concepts in order to get the patient to accept them, and this is called repentition.

In general, people are more relaxed when they are in a dream state. When a person is able to visualize something they desire, research has shown that it is much more likely that they will obtain it. In this situation, the goal of the hypnotist is to help the patient achieve a desired goal. The word Hypnotherapy is based off the word “Hypnos,” and this was the name of the Greek god of sleep. This technique has been primarily used to help people on a mental level, and was not well understood until the 19th century.

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