One of the most significant moments we have the privilege of sharing with our clients is the initial conversation, generally called a pre-talk. This is when we get a chance to enjoy a shared interview process. We get to know them, they get to know us.
There are a list of things that are crucial for a successful session to follow.
There are several myths about hypnosis. We discuss the fact hypnosis is not sleep. To the outside observer, it appears the subject is a relaxed sleeping person. The hypnosis subject however, knows differently. You are not sleeping.
The second important difference between expectations and reality is that you can hear the sound of my voice.
What good would it do if you could not hear me? When I am speaking with your subconscious, she needs to be able to hear, process, and respond. The guidance I give my clients is this: “Listen to the sound of my voice and follow my simple instructions. session to flow smoothly. ”
I can not count the number of times a client has emerged from a profounder experience that created monumental opportunities for positive change only to say, “I do not think I was hypnotized because I heard every word you said.
You will hear my voice, the change occurs as you follow along while being relaxed. Sometimes I will have someone open their eyes while we are working together. Eyes open hypnosis is just as powerful-and sometimes more so-due to the fact we get around that pesky “I heard you” hurdle.
One of my clients is a nationally ranked ice dancer. Because she lives her life laser-focused, trance occurs most substantially when her mind and attention are allowed to be directed on something with her eyes open. I encourage her to play games on her cell phone during our sessions. As her critical attention is drawn to the game strategy, her subconscious is free to finally relax into her own definition of trance. It works. Last year she made it to Nationals and has qualified this year as well.
Many do not forgive that while I am working with their subconscious, the conscious thinking mind is invited to drift, float, and dream, but is not ever excluded. She is welcome to participate. The magic of thought is not shut off when trance time begins. That's where the good stuff is.
When that connection is created well-and with multiple modes of communications in place-it is a win-win for all. Sometimes she will communicate at the speed of thought, other times by developing signals, allowing you to notice things in your world for the first time even though they have always been there. A message or a sign, sometimes something repeated through your day.
I realize that the entertainment business has created a scenario which is not helpful to hypnotherapists. If you expect it to be like a stage show, or how it's portrayed in the movies, then your first session will give you another opportunity to say, “Wow, that's not what I expected.”
Will you remember everything which occurs in a session?
This is a very interesting question.
Hypnotists never work toward intentional amnesia. It would not serve anyone's best interests to ask or expect a person to block out information from the session.
With that said, it is also not required for you to remember all the details. It is best to let the information just flow. If you have total recall afterwards, cool. But if you have gaps that's perfect as well.
Your subconscious does not miss anything, ever.
One of my favorite hypno related jokes is, “You remember 100% of what you remember.”
As a subject, time distortion is so much fun. Trance time can seem as a moment or an hour has gone by, or you can sort through decades of life, solve the problems of the world and still be home for dinner. Time, place and space are not relevant during hypnosis.
I always begin a session by asking what time the subject needs to leave my office. I promise to watch the clock. I keep my cell phone on the floor beside my chair and activate it with my toe during our session to time things as necessary. This allows the recipient freedom to accept the gift of time distortion, without the normal worries and concerns imposed by agendas and ticking clocks.
Another important thing to realize as a subject is that you never leave the real world. If you started in the chair you will be in the chair when you return. You can expect the sounds of life to continue. Your hypnotist will encourage you to relax into the knowledge that the sounds around you will only serve to relax you more. You will know you are safe, secure, and all is well. Traffic or office conversations just do not matter.
As I bring someone back to awareness in my office, I also prepare them to awaken refreshed, relaxed, and feeling altogether amazing. I usually point out something about the sound of the air flowing through the vents again. That is an easy return-to-reality point.
This next myth is one of my favorites: It is not possible to get stuck in a hypnotic state.
Since communications happen directly through your subconscious mind, and her number one job is to function with your greatest interests at heart, there is nothing I override her internal radar for you.
If I ever said or did anything that violated your trust she would pop you out of trance immediately. She is vigilant. That is why the partnership is so powerful.
I can tell you from a hypnosis subject of point of view I live my life healed, whole, happy, and in balanced alignment due to my willingness to create a place and space where the hypnotic triggers and suggestions are allowed to thrive.