So lets hail a cab and head for self-esteem street, shall we?
5 Steps To Stroll Down Self-Esteem Street
As with many processes and techniques using self hypnosis, this one requires you to find a comfortable place where you are going to be undisturbed for a while, and sit in a comfortable chair rather than lying down in bed. Now sit back and relax with both feet on the floor, and place your hands on the armrests of the chair or in your lap – which is the most comfortable for you. Ensure that our arms and legs are not touching each other (uncrossed) and proceed.
Step One : Take yourself into hypnosis. You can do so by any means you desire or know of. You can use a progressive relaxation process or a meditative technique, or any other method you know of that is going to ensure you are focused, receptive and absorbed in your thoughts.
Once you have induced hypnosis, move on to step two.
Step Two: Imagine that you are in your local town center or the city that you live in at this busy time of year (if you do not celebrate Christmas where you are based, you can pick any other celebration or time of year when the streets are full of people and it is a busy place to be).
Really engage your imagination and see the sights, the colors, the movement around you. Notice the shades of light and textures of all the activity. Notice the random nature of the busy-ness and the hustle bustle of people. Listen to the sounds of all the life going on around you, get a real sense of tuning into the liveliness.
Notice and observe all the buildings and become aware of the shape and direction of the street you are in and that you are familiar with.
Walking with purpose along this street, but slow enough to truly take in all the details, observe all the action, watch all the movement and motion happening all around. Tune in to the surroundings and fully engage in them. Tell yourself that each step you take along this street takes you deeper inside your mind, and that despite the frenetic nature of this place, you relax physically as walk along the street.
Once you have created and really got the details with as much clarity as you can all around you, then move on to the next step.
Step Three: Firstly, pause in the street, let the activity go on all around you and engage in this moment. Become very self-aware, notice your breathing, notice who you are at this time, notice your thoughts, notice your emotions, your mood and do not attempt to change anything, just observe how you are in this moment. Then with that level of self-awareness, start to watch all the people moving around you on the street. Watch them for a few moments.
Notice all the different shapes, different sizes, different faces, colors, mannerisms, ways, habits and idiosyncrasies that vary so much from one person to another. Yet every all these distinctions and differences, there is so much that is similar between you and every one of the people you watch all around you.
You know that all these people have similar basic needs and basic desires for themselves and their loved ones.
Take a moment and look at the people around you, and understand this idea completely before moving on. Get a sense of connection with your fellow people, feel the commonality that you share with each person, become aware of what you all have in common at this time.
As you watch these people, your fellows in your town or city, take a few moments to just accept them all as they are in this moment. Realizing how similar you are to these others, just take some time to truly accept them as they are – be accepting and understanding and notice how that feels, how enjoyable that is, and when you feel that you within yourself , move on to the next step.
Step Four: Knowing that you have so much in common with other people, and having accepted them all at a deep level right here and now, you realize that you can accept yourself as you really are.
Accept yourself too now. Express acceptance about everything that you are. Accept your own feelings, thoughts, aspirations, ways of being. Imagine this self-acceptance is like a color or a sound or a sensation that moves and travels through every aspect of your body and mind.
Start to repeat some affirmations to yourself at this stage to build up these feelings of assuredness – make sure you repeat it to yourself in a way that is undeniably convincing, with some real sense of meaning. Say it to yourself in way that feels like you really believe it:
I feel more and more wonderful being me.
I am comfortable in my own skin.
I like and love being me.
I feel deeply reassured.
I am safe.
I am in control of how and who I am.
If there are other affirmations that you prefer, then use them, apply them to yourself with some vigour and in a way that really gives you a great sense of self.
As you say these things to yourself, now find a shop window to gaze at. Look at your own reflection, see yourself as vividly as you can and continue to repeat those words to yourself in your mind while looking at yourself and being appreciative of yourself.
Gaze deep into the eyes of your reflection and notice that the expression deep in the eyes is one that you know belong to someone with a growing sense of self-belief and self-esteem and confidence in their ability to be in control of their own life . Notice what tells you that is true.
Once you have really connected with your reflection, all the time reiterating those affirmations of well-being, when you've enjoyed enough of those developed feelings, then move on to the final step.
Step Five: Enjoy the feelings within you and tell yourself that they stay with you after this session has come to end. Think of some action you can take this very day that is evidence to you of your developing and growing self-esteem. Show yourself that you trust in you and that you appreciate you and go and take that action whenever is pertinent to do so.
Take a deep energizing breath, and let it radiate through you. Wiggle your toes and fingers, open your eyes, stretch your arms out and tune in to your surroundings.
Spend a week running through this session daily inside your mind and take some action, do something different in your life to truly confirm that you are growing in self-esteem and glowing with confidence.